I just love my in-laws...
They only call if they are honor-bound to give information.
They never ask "How are you"; it's always, "Molly, You need to..." or "Molly, Dan has got to..." and half the time it's not necessary that anything needs to be done in the next half hour!
As I've stated, D's uncle passed away. We were told when the arrangements were made, they would let us know. Guess what? They didn't.
My mother called and told me my beloved Dr. T passed away (he was the pastor who I was close to in high school, and he married D and I. And baptized K) and that there is a memorial service tomorrow at my home church. Several pastors I've not seen in over 20 years will be there, as well as my old choir leader, with whom I had a love/hate relationship (loved his wife, hated him, but loved to sing, so I put up with him!). In short, the only thing that would keep me from going tomorrow is a bout of the stomach flu. And I'm perfectly healthy.
Oops, I digress. The point of that is, I've made plans to attend the service (as if you couldn't tell!). I left the house briefly this afternoon to collect K's schoolbooks for him, and 5 hours later he remembered to tell me the great-aunt had called, only he hadn't gotten to the phone in time to answer it. I called back; no answer. I waited an hour; got a "Well we were at the funeral home...the showing was tonight!" (The Where were you was clearly implied in her tone!) I told her we'd had the flu making the rounds, and she said "Don't you show up tomorrow at the funeral! Don't you bring that shit around us!" (Direct quote...)
Yes, I fumed over it. And then decided I didn't care. After all, she could have left a message on the voice mail; she chose not to. Her main problem? D works up in Indianapolis, and I'm a 'married-in'...not part of 'her' inner circle, and therefore do not need to attend her husband's funeral. When she says 'jump', I do not ask 'how high'...it's 'why?' Everyone else...well, you get the picture!
That's okay. Given the choice between saying goodbye to a loved man as opposed to one I've only had minimal contact with in 16 years, I'll take the former.