I've never been divorced, so I've never had to deal with child support payments. However, I have friends who are in this situation, and have heard arguments on both sides.
With that said, I found myself in the minority this morning when the topic arose on the radio station my daughter listens to in the morning. Here's the story: An Army veteran, who had made faithful child support payments for ten years, suddenly found himself out of a job in 2009. He has since found another position in recent months, but asked for a one month extension of his child support deadline in order to make sure he was back on his feet. The judge denied his request and sent him to jail.
The question posed by the DJ was, "Do you think this was fair? Do you think certain circumstances need to apply? And does the fact the man is a veteran come into play here?"
An overwhelming majority of both women and men said they agreed with the judge. He didn't meet the deadline, so go to jail.
Meanwhile, my daughter and I both agreed the man should have had the fact he'd made regular, steady payments taken into account, and he should have been granted the one month extension.
Single parents, educate me here: How does a man make child support payments from jail? Is he put into work release or something, with everything he makes going to the child?
I'll agree, there ARE dads out there who shirk their duty, and don't pay. I've known dads whose pay is minimal, yet send half their paycheck to the mother of their children. And I've also known mothers who take that money and don't use it for their kids.
One caller spoke up and said maybe the parent making the payments should get a tax break, while the parent on the receiving end should have to count it as taxable income. What do you think? Would this help the system or harm it?
Another man spoke up and said this was just another blatant excuse for the 'I'm not working' card. But if you click the link, you see the guy DID have a job at the time of the court ruling; this wasn't presented on the show.
So talk to me; I'm interested. What's YOUR take on the child support issue?