Until 1991, meeting people who asked me what I did was easy. College student. Driver at Crossroads. DST at ADC. Server at ACC. But after marrying and becoming pregnant, 'Stay-At-Home-Mommy' was met with 'Uh...that's nice. Oh look, someone I need to speak to.' And they'd act like I had leprosy or something.
In 1993, the answer was easy. "Full-time babysitter." This would bring up a discussion on child care, how daycare rates were outrageous, etc. I tried my hand at being a Tupperware Consultant, and people avoided me like the plague. Not sure why; it's not like I ever forced them to buy or even take a catalog. I guess none of my friends were interested?
In 1997, I heard the term 'domestic engineer' for the first time and grabbed it. This often brought humor, when a mortgage lender didn't understand, and called me, asking if I'd been a DE for seven years, why hadn't I made any $$?
"Because full time mommies don't get paid."
By 1999, we'd moved to a new community and people had noticed me scribbling in notebooks during various sports practices, and word was getting around I had written a book or two and was trying to get published. When I accomplished this goal in 2003, people were thrilled for me! I could now drop the DE title and say 'Published Author'. When we moved in 2006, it took me a year to really get to know anyone in the community, but when I did, my newfound 'celebrity status' was met with admiration. Especially when the publishing took off in 2011, and 12 books followed.
I've paid a heavy price the past two years; my weight has shot up, due to sitting on my butt for long periods of time, plus the family has no respect for my online job and constantly puts me down for not cleaning the house like I did seven or eight years ago. My spouse is also not happy with my weekly karaoke habit and it's now a joke among my friends that I turn into a pumpkin at midnight, though I am 'allowed' to stay out until 1am.
My royalty checks are met with ridicule. 'Oh, boy...we're rolling in it now...'
But griping about what I do isn't the point of this post.
No, my QT post this morning showed another way to answer this age-old question. A cashier at a grocery store pointed out she's more than 'just a cashier'. She offers hope to those who look depressed, sad, angry, or even furious, as they come past her. She listens to their brief tale and offers a ray of sunshine. She sees it as her mission to offer a kind word to anyone and all who need cheering up.
And it got me thinking: What is it I do?
-I encourage other writers/potential authors.
-I provide a safe haven for any child/teenager who walks through my door.
-I listen and offer advice when needed.
-I pray for people's needs when I see them on various social networks, and for those I already know.
-When I sing, I'm either entertaining or giving people a good laugh. And in the church choir, we're praying out loud.
I am sooo much more than 'just a Domestic Engineer' or even a Published Author.
How about you? What do YOU do?
-Dark Lady (Nailed it, and posted video)
-Dream Lover (bleh....too low)
-Dreams (okay, but won't sing it again.)
A birthday party was going on, so lots of singers Saturday night. Next week, I should finally finish the 'D' titles and move on the the 'E's:)