Friday, October 10, 2008

Back Rubs and Dating

Currently Reading: I'm up to Chapter 7 on Witch's Brew (sorry Tab...I've been spelling it wrong!) and enjoying it! It's a long one; over 300 pages, so it will take me a couple of days to get through both, if W-Heart is the same length! Linda Wisdom's 50 Ways to Hex Your Lover arrived in the mail, and I forced myself to put it down when I reached Chapter 5; else I'd be up all night reading it!

I also went ahead and bought the following books: Anita Birt's Isabella's Diary; Cheryl Dragon's Black on Blonde; and Regina Carylsle's Tempting Tess. These 5 books should carry me through till next week:)

For as long as I can remember, I've loved having my back scratched.

I'd sit on mom's lap while watching TV and be in utter bliss while her fingertips gently soothed my itchy back. When her arms gave out, I'd go across the room to dad. And back and forth, until told to go to bed, or that neither of them wanted to scratch it anymore.

My great-grandmother had a tub brush with wonderful bristles; she once said she felt as if she were taking off my skin with it, but I'd beg her not to stop!

Sitting in church, I loved it when my mother put her arm around me and lightly stroked my shoulder. Her nails would lightly touch my skin, and I'd hike my shoulder up and down if she stayed in one place too long.

When I began dating, and thought I'd found 'The One', I would always ask him to scratch my back. Sometimes they did; sometimes they declined. The ones that did ended up sticking around longer, especially if they liked their own backs rubbed. I happen to give fantastic back massages, and a few of my boyfriends appreciated me straightening out the knots in their muscles.

When I began writing, I added this concept into my books. Imagine my surprise when the critique came back that my heroine asking her boyfriend to scratch her back was surmised 'too childish'.

My question is, 'She trusts him to help her with her homework, kiss her until her knees buckle, but she can't ask him to scratch her back while they're still being non-sexual?'

I ended up cutting the scene, but I do have others in other books where it's the heroine rubbing the guy's back. And I should point out the above scenario took place between a 30-year-old man and a 19-year-old college sophomore. These new scenes I'm talking about, the h/h are roughly the same age. Is that the difference?

And my children also love having their backs scratched. But in our household, it's DAD who has the best fingernails. My 'one bad habit' is I tend to bite mine. They love going to see my parents, who cheefully accept a grandchild either on the lap or beside them on the couch, their shirts hiked high, and those words echoed from long ago..."Will you scratch my back please?"

Survivor News (spoiler alert if you've not watched it yet...)
OMG! Is Feng the stupidest tribe in Survivor history? Why the hell did they keep Kelly? She didn't even try to paddle her raft last night! I'm going to predict they will go down just like the season where Stephenie ended up being her own lone tribemate until the merge. I can't remember where the location was; the next season they brought her and Bobby Jon back (Guatemala, perhaps??) The only good thing is, Ace and Sugar will still be together, since he's the only one who knows she's got the secret immunity idol. Kind of enjoyed watching her laze around yesterday, enjoying the fruit and the sunshine! And boy can the wedding videographer play water lacrosse! (Sorry...blanking on the name here!)

Sorry Ashley!
I'd intended to pop in to the LRC chat site last night, but I was busy getting dinner ready and keeping an eye on the clock for Survivor and CSI. And my son decided to spend some time on YouTube and finding parodies of songs on another site. I'll read the posts after I finish blogging, if Yahell will let me into my mail! A screen keeps popping up with 'error'.

Additional Info about Yesterday
My stepdaughter called me by mistake yesterday; she hit the wrong number on her number list. (We laughed about it; I teased her about subconsciously wanting to talk to me in the first place!) When I asked if anymore had been said about her ex's idiotic statement, she said that when he tried to say it again, she threw it back at him that 'fine...then I get the right to approve your new girlfriends...' and the jerk was actually OK with it! I'm shaking my head. What's wrong with these two?

Have a great day; I'm off to spend a quiet day with my toddler; I told my oldest he could drive the van to school and back. Tomorrow I'll be up bright and early for the Fall Festival, so I probably won't post until late tomorrow night.


Sommer Marsden said...

Survivor: was flabbergasted. I have no idea what they were thinking. Oh, yeah. I do. "Duh" that is what they were thinking...

Anonymous said...

I think backscratching is one of those things that a couple might do in a relationship but not necessarily talk about. Not every couple does that and is absolutely associated with children. It would be like someone scratching zits off their face. You don't mention it.
I dunno. I can see both sides of the argument but you also don't want to ick out your reader.

Carol Preflatish said...

I gotta add my two cents about Survivor, too. Stupid move on their part. And, sorry Molly, I can't stand Ace and Sugar. I hope they go soon.